5.3.09

the web.

The complexity of human relationships amazes me. It is almost like geometry.. starts with lines, and before you know it, there is an intense web that is almost-unfathomable.

The lines in a relationship are a screen. They are also the base. The people are the building blocks. Emotion is the geometry that brings them together. It can be straight. It can be twisted. It can be simple. It can be complex. It can be apparent. It can be enigmatic. It can be aesthetic. It can be ugly. At the end, it is a simple ordering principle that life is based on.

We are born inside a pre-designed web. A system that will hold us when we try to stick out hands out. After a while, we learn the ropes. We start experimenting, first with the nose, then with the hands and then the legs. Before we know it, we have mastered the art and are ready to break out of the web. The break-out leaves a gaping hole. Sometimes, we try to fix by trying to repair the hole so that it does not look like the outline of our body. Most times, we just learn to live with it. Leave the hole open so that we can go back whenever we want to. Hope that with time, the hole will heal itself, and look more ordered, restoring the original geometry so that it does not look so mangled anymore. Hope that with time, the hole will become a doorway, a legitimate entrance / exitway.

Sometimes, the web fails. Thats what tests our strength. Some of us are strong enough to hold the web together and help re-weave it, some of us are strong enough to get out of the web unscathed, some a little bruised, some just cave in.

It does not affect us so much if the web that we created caves in , because we know that we are capable of weaving it again, with, maybe a slight shift in axis or a change in the ordering geometry; but it does affect us when the pre-designed web collapses. We get so comfortable with the web that we are unable to comprehend the changes. We are not sure if we can repair the web, we might not like the changes made to it.

In the end, we learn to live. The lines might have been truncated, twisted, some completely erased. We learn to live with the changed geometry. We become active participants in the creation of the geometry and learn to love it. That is what we all live for.

7 comments:

Karthik said...

Nice...Probably you should think of writing a book someday...

Jyotsna said...

ha ha .. book ? ME ?? thanks for the confidence !!

dyuman said...

it is very good....but the problem is that i am not able to understand the inner meanin of what u said....

Jyotsna said...

hmm .. dyuman, i don't know the inner meaning myself. if i did understand it, my post would have been much clearer ! :) thanks for the compliment!

Dilesha said...

Yes it is an intense web that is unfathomable. Relationships should have been the base of it but observing closely that one will be able to see our lives are fragmented; individualized. Ones desires, urge and all that have concerned with myself, my fulfillment, my happiness, my problems have already taken the base of this web; which is rather primitive, barbarous and cruel. Going right into the depth of it one will be able to find out that it is a simple ordering principle this web is based on; which has put the man against man – the security; the movement behind all the dirty work of man.

I have to tell you in these million years of time, we human beings lived without much of a change. Yes, we are born inside this pre-designed web. As you have told- it is a system that will hold us when we even try to stick our hands out. I have to tell you this pre-designed web never got failed but it failed us altogether. More you play with it, more you will get things complicated.
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However most of us are so comfortable with the web. Of cause it is entertaining but one should never be there so much; more you get close to it, more will you become an active participant of it; more it will get at you to shape. At the end, it will destroy you while making you what it wants you to be. In the words of J Krishnamurthi, – a cunning animal. After that you will be forced to live in that state.

Therefore please don’t get learned to live in this web. Especially with the makers of it. Try to keep yourself away from them. They are always reaching and reaching and reaching towards you to tear you to pices. If you let the time to deal with it, you will only get caught up in this wheel of time. More you let the time to deal with it, the lesser the distance you offer them to cross over you. So it is always better the earlier you decide ‘what you want to be’.

Leo P L said...

Good read. I like the comparision. Even I was kind of follwing a straight line of-late, wannna make some difference. So as a first step decided to start blogging again.

Jyotsna said...

@ Dilesha,
Well, my intent was not really to complain about the web. It is not that bad a system, really.It gives you the support that you need, as a child and growing up. As we grow up, if our "mentors" are also the kind that have stretched the web a bit, life gets easier.
As long as you don't allow yourself to get sucked into the web and get tangled in its mess, one survives. The web tries to shape you and mould you to what it wants you to be; as long as you want to and do fight it, i think a balance is reached somewhere. After all, life is full of conflicts and contradictions !